Oh boy, do I feel blonde. I can't believe I let it slip so long without putting out a new DA journal. My only defense is that I had other things on my mind.
My hubby and I were married and sealed for time and all eternity in the Mt. Timpanogos temple of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints in American Fork, Utah on December 8th, 2012. We had our honeymoon at a great bed & breakfast in Provo, and spent the rest of the year in Utah before we drove out to California.
We've been staying at various long-stay hotels to date, cause house-hunting is never as easy or quick as one might like to think, even in this market. The closest we've gotten is this awesome cabin in the mountains around San Jose, which is completely off the grid and fairly isolated on 40 acres. It would've meant a long commute for Scott, but he would only need to go into the office once or twice a week as long as there was reliable internet so he could work from home. We did a walk-through of the place late September, and we were waiting for the pre-approval from the bank (which got held up because of the shutdown), when we unexpectedly learned that someone else had put in a bid. We were both pretty miffed because we asked the owner to notify our agent if anyone else put in a bid (which he didn't) and our agent didn't contact us either (which she
should have).
We found out about the bid thanks to Zillow, and that only because we requested to be notified if the status ever changed. So last we heard there were two people bidding, and it had gotten higher than our pre-approval loan, and there was something about an inspector finding something wrong with the septic system. Now we're back to square one, and we're thinking of just finding a nice apartment or condo to move into while we again slog back into the fray of buying a house. We're fairly far from his work place right now, because we moved to a small town that's close to the cabin in anticipation of closing the deal. We're thinking of going back to the Fremont area or even up to Sunnyvale, where his work is located.
I really love the temperate climate of the coast - I have had nearly zero weather headaches or back pain related to changes in the weather. And my allergies and sinus problems have dwindled down to nearly nothing!! It's so wonderful to be able to breathe and not avoid the outdoors. There are even days when I can skip my pseudophedrine, which I thought I'd never be able to do.
The fly in the ointment is that my skin, after 18 years in the dry desert, has had some adjustment problems. While I have had fewer problems with acne and breakouts, my skin has become very resistant to exfoliation treatments. Normally I use a back brush, loofah sponge, sugar scrub, facial scrub, and shampoo brush for my scalp. These have always done the trick for me before, but now it's as if I never even bothered with all of it. After a couple days I can rub my fingers on my arms, legs, shoulder, back, face, and abdomen and come away with a noticeable white roll of dead skin cells. Gross! I'm acting like a shedding lizard, and I'm nearly at my wits end with how to deal with it.
Yes, I soak the skin in warm water before I exfoliate and I do notice results, but when I dry off I get more dead skin cells that flake off with the towel and all over my clothes. It's gotten to the point where I have started using the fine side of my pumice stone to exfoliate my legs, upper arms, and most of the rest of me while avoiding the moles. (It's harder than you think when you have DNS - Dysplastic Nevus Syndrome) They're hardly ever flat, and they like to grow and multiply. The bonus of using the pumice stone on my legs is that I have less hair to shave. But if you want to try it, be very careful not to rub too much when you first begin. Be gentle and don't put pressure on the skin and limit how many times you go over the same skin, and be very careful of the backs of the knees and the inner thighs.
That's enough about that.
Oh yes, my new med Zyprexa I mentioned in my last journal? Well, it did a good job of stabilizing my moods, but the doctor didn't warn me that practically everyone who takes it has strong cravings for carbohydrates and gains weight. Yeah, she mentioned that some people gained weight, but another doctor here in California revealed to me that nearly everyone was subject to that little side effect.
Yeah, that'd explain why in the time between August and December I gained 20 pounds. W.T.F.
I am so thankful that my wedding dress was what one might call "weight-resistant". I wore a kimono, and you couldn't even tell I didn't have a waist. Thanks again for the suggestion, Rei-chan!
Needless to say, my doctor here switched me to another drug in the same class as the Zyprexa. I'm now on Seraquel, and I have lost 18 of those nasty 20 pounds. It came off so easily and quickly that my doctor was a little concerned at first, since it happened in just 3 months. (No, I didn't exercise myself to death in that time frame) I'm much happier and my cravings for pastries is more easily ignored. I feel that the Seraquel is better than the Zyprexa for me because it does a better job at quieting my mind, and I'm still surprised at how little time it takes for me to fall asleep when I lay down. I've been used to years and years of having to exhaust my body before I can sleep, and spending hours laying in the dark listening to soft music and audio books hoping that I'll drift off.
On to happier things. Being married to my hubby is so wonderful and I'm so happy and content every day. For skeptics out there, no, we have never had a fight or even raised voices. Unless we're watching Doctor Who - we get a little excited at times, due to the superb script and directing. British writers are the tops with surprises, unexpected twists, cliffhangers, and overall brilliant work. *Ahem* There's no one reason to give as to why we have had no contention in our marriage, and I fully intend to keep the peace going and I have no doubt he feels the same. A very wise and kind LDS apostle once mentioned that in all the years of marriage with his wife before she passed away, he never spoke a harsh to her. A lot of people would hear that and scoff. A lot of people would say "That doesn't work for everyone." But I've come to the belief that it can work for everyone, if they work at it, stay humble, don't take offense at words misspoken, tell your spouse you love them at least once each day, and put their needs above your own. There's so much good advice out there for couples, but not everyone takes it to heart. Naturally, it won't succeed unless both partners are fully invested in making it work. My love and I are coming up on our first anniversary, and I'm making a promise to make our second year together as wonderful as our first. I'm sure that there will be some disagreements on the road ahead, but I'm not going to waste my time dreading it, and I know that we're capable of talking things through to come to a good resolution.
How good is our relationship, you say? We easily take turns playing the PS3 (usually it's every other day
). He never complains about taking out the trash, I never complain about cooking, and we both manage the dishes. He doesn't mind when I sometimes forget to do the laundry on a specific day, and I appreciate it when he reminds me. We're both of the same mind on what kind of house to look for, and I don't nag him if he goes above the speed limit when driving. Naturally, I could go on and on about all the lovey-dovey stuff for quite some time, but one of the best examples in my mind is how comfortable I am with him. There really was no embarrassed, awkward phase of getting used to living together, no startled nights or mornings of "who the heck is in my bed?". We're best friends, and we're easy with the periods of silence, and supporting each other physically and emotionally. Scott's dealing with back pain of unknown origin, and through all the doctor referrals, tests, and meds, I'm confident in my ability to help and support him through it all. It's old hat to me, and we're both committed to chasing all leads in finding out what's going on and how to fix it. And he supports me on my bad days, which thankfully are much fewer than his.
I'm enjoying getting to know Scott's friends here in California. Naturally, nearly all of them work with computers in one form or another, so they're the go-to people. Thanks to them I finally had my first encounter with Spam, and I lived to tell the tale. It's never going to be my favorite meat product, but I think it's a little higher than bologna. I've learned to be a lot more cautious about red coloring in my food, because it could be crushed bug shells. Also, that 'natural' vanilla flavor in your ice cream (and other food) could be beaver anus gland. One of the funnest things is trying all the many flavors of Kit-Kat from Japan that two of them have amassed. I'm not a lover of Kit-Kats, but I do really like the cherry blossom, the chocolate orange, and the jasmine tea is okay. My least favorite is 'pumpkin', which is really a local gourd whose name I can't recall. A very distinct flavor and most likely an acquired taste. Pretty much every time we visit, Scott wanders over to the Kit-Kat cabinet to try a new flavor. We'll be staying put this Thanksgiving and will be spending the day with the group.
For those who are curious, yes we want kids, and yes, we are trying. There's a couple family names in the running for a girl, and we've already talked and agreed on a name for a boy. (It's a family name on his side and the initials spell a cool nickname: ACE!)
I think that briefly covers everything that's been going on, though I can't remember if I ever posted engagement photos. I'll check and write myself a note to do it if they're not already up. Then I'll write myself a note to look for our wedding pictures CD - it's gone missing again. Last time I lost and found it I was too clever for myself, tucking it between two PS3 game jackets to keep it safe since it was sent to us tucked into one of those worthless paper sleeves. I'm hoping it's either with the games again, or I put it in my 'drug bag' which holds all my medications, supplements, and essential oils. (Don't ask me why I haven't loaded the pictures onto the computer - I don't know either
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